for what is now approaching twenty years in the hobby now, I have seen, read and heard time and time again (hundreds and hundreds of times really) well-intended aquarists counter with "yeah... but mine looks great and its polyps are out all the time!"
And almost never has the exmple/specimens given been more than months old captive (under one year again most always)
They can take many months to slowly starve to death.
And almost never have those folks understood that the polyps being open on a starving coral is not necessarily a sign ofgood health, but rather need/hunger/natural habit.
Much like photosynthetic corals that swell in size and pan for weakly available light in systems with old or dusty/dirty light bulbs, these corals are not "growing" under these bulbs... but starving and struggling to catch the waning (quality/quantity) of light.
While there are (very) rare exceptions of such gorgonians that live over one year... that does not change the fact that the majority die within months of collections and that it is irresponsble IMO for most folks to keep, use or recommend these species for aquarium life presently.
It would be helpful Becky (truly) if you'd post back to this thread after yours are one year captive, or not, and detail your husbandry for perspective then to help explain the success or not.
best of luck/life to all,
Anthony