Daytonaconnecti, The secret to a happy reef is a happy wife. You need some quiet time for this stuff, also a reverse UG filter, some NSW and two more things, one is you should go to a muddy beach at low tide and pick up rocks, swirl them in a bucket of seawater, pick out the crabs and dump in all the creatures (I know, not everyone can do that) the other thing is to powerwash the rock a few times a year with a canister or diatom filter with a restriction on the hose to give you a strong stream. Oh and live food like black worms that you have to feed "Selcon".
A little luck helps.
Paul